My sister Simone, she is having a rough time of it lately.
When most people think of siblings, they are reminded of their own
who are usually just a few years older or younger than themselves.
I was blessed by my parents to have 6 siblings in a 23 years span.
Simone, whom I speak of today is the oldest of us all,
81 and is now a resident of a nursing home here in Plaquemine since Ida.
Just two weeks ago she was rushed to the
hospital with gallstones and had to have emergency surgery.
Three days later she was back at the Home, doing well although confused.
Then on Friday night my niece, her daughter, Minta
received a call from the Home
saying that the ambulance had to take her Mom back to the hospital.
As serious as the illness two weeks ago was, this episode is life or death.
She is septic and on a ventilator as she was having trouble breathing.
She had a kidney blocked by a stone and had that removed and
the organs washed out. Minta, has been a trooper for her Mom
and has been keeping me updated so I can update the rest of the siblings.
Yesterday evening, I was able to visit for an hour with her and my nursing
self knew what to expect, I have seen this scenario many times in my
career, but my heart, oh my heart....
it could never be ready to see my sister, still on a ventilator,
being weaned off the meds that kept her sedated so that they can
try and get her to breathe on her own.
As I approached her bed, with my Minta at my side,
I reached for her very swollen and cold hand and said,
"Hey Mone, it's Lil"
right away, she opened those big blue eyes that are mirrored in mine,
the ones we inherited from our Dad. As she tried to focus on
my face, she also squeezed my hand and tried to speak.
We are all big speakers, us Collins children, often known to over-talk
each other, so for her not to be able to talk or try and
figure out what is going on is so hard.
I reassure her that she is very sick but getting better, that
I come full of love from our other siblings and family members.
She becomes so agitated that Minta and I decide to leave her rest.
She has at least six IV fluids, pumping through her, catheters,
drain tubes etc. she is far from out of the woods but this ICU staff
is superb at Our Lady of the Lake and if she does pull through
it will be because of this same staff and the caring of my niece.
My sister is a trooper. She has more lives than a cat,
if the '9 lives' saying is true. Throughout all of her illnesses,
she has remained steadfast and positive in the belief that
she will be fine and if she is not, then she will be going with all
her other loved ones that have passed to the next life.
Being the baby of all the Collins siblings has me realizing oonce
again, that I will probably see this scenario playing out
again with another sibling before it is my time to say goodbye
to those I love. Yet there is no amount of "practice" that can prepare
you to see someone you love suffering in life.
I do know this... that each time I am witness to the tragedies of this life
I am more aware of just how wonderful the body and mind is...
... and the heart, well it goes on and on.
(Please keep my family in your thoughts and prayers.
Thanks for your time as well.)
left to right!
Roseana, Veronica, Cheryl (sis in law), Peter, Celena, Myself,
and our oldest sister, Simone in the front.
Not pictured, My brother Larry who has died.
4 comments:
Love reading your blog entries! Great tribute to your sister and family!
I’m praying for Simone and wishing she has a speedy recovery and continues to improve Lilly.
I’m always here if you want or need to talk about anything.
Praying for Simone and your family. It's hard losing a loved one, especially a sister. Spend as much time as you can with her. The memories will last a lifetime. Sisterhood never dies.....
Thanks my dear friends!
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